We are ready to spend a weekend. A mother team walked out of town to give a speech at the meeting. For some women, this is the first time they have left home. Needless to say, they are a bit worried about leaving their families.
Especially for a mother, her son has autism and epilepsy. He had no seizures for more than a year, so she was convinced that he would not have a seizure when she left. At the same time, she is worried that he will have a chance when she leaves. She takes most of the responsibility for matters related to her son's health. If she has a seizure, she does not want her husband to feel pressure.
On the last day of the meeting, she received a call from home. The worries in her voice tell us that something went wrong. Her husband called to let her know that their son did have a seizure. With the patient's expertise, she guided him to do what he did until the next day.
We can feel her sorrow, she expresses her feelings, because she does not go home when it happens.
A few days after we got home, I called my family to see how their son did it. Mom is with her one child, so I talk to my father. He said that although his son was very tired and sleepy, he felt much better.
Then he said, "Can I ask you a question?"
"Of course," I replied.
"Do you have any sadness?" he asked.
"Sad?", I repeat.
"Yes, have you felt depressed or depressed?" he asked.
"Well, when my son is sick, I feel helpless, I sometimes feel sad, yes."
"Okay," he replied. "Because I didn't want to have dinner last night. I need a lot of medication because of seizures. Now he can't walk for a few days, I have to take him away."
"It's very sad for me," he explained. "I stood up from the table and rested in my room. Now everyone is dissatisfied with me."
"Have you told them why you are sad?" I asked.
"No," he replied. "My wife has enough worry, I don't want to bother her anymore."
This is the decisive moment in our conversation.
"Can I give you my opinion, a wife's point of view?" I asked.
"Of course," he said.
"I know that you want to protect your wife's feelings by not telling her how you feel, because you don't want to put extra pressure on her."
"That's right," he said.
"When we don't convey emotions and our emotions recede, we can actually bring more stress and anxiety to our loved ones. It can cause tension and misunderstanding. Sadness and unhappiness."
"Oh," he replied. "I never thought about this."
"When we engage in frank dialogue, we may feel vulnerable and exposed, but it is very important to be open and honest so that we can understand each other's views." This is how we learn and prosper in relationships. ", I have provided it.
"Otherwise, stress and hostility may increase, putting this relationship at risk."
"This makes sense," he said. "Thank you."
Whether we are parents or we are supporters, we must communicate openly and honestly. Otherwise tensions will intensify, misunderstandings and unnecessary conflicts may arise.
By sharing our opinions, we can strengthen our connections and find a balance that is right for everyone, especially for those you are teaching, caring for or supporting.
Orignal From: Raising a child with a disability and honest communication - Have you ever been sad?
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