If you feel troubled this summer - especially because you beat the streets in your work, the recent skyrocketing price of natural gas will make you work harder - you are not alone. If you "stay" in the local area last year, then the idea of doing it again is likely to lose its new ideas. If you feel this way and other members of your family feel the same, talking in the summer months may not be a pleasant prospect.
When this happens, it's easy to start blaming: stress triggers a series of negative thoughts, thinking that your body and brain's chemical reactions will react, turning a "harmless" negative thought into a very bad one. cycle. Although accusing your spouse or child of making a conversation worse because of their reaction, it may make you feel better, but it does not resolve the conflict. Quite the contrary, it tends to continue a larger negative cycle, sometimes leading to defeating the topic together. You may find yourself in two or more people living under one roof. Everyone is eager to "have fun" during the summer vacation, but I don't know how to raise this issue peacefully.
What should I do? There are a lot of activities [and low cost to free] around the United States this year, and here are some tips to help you determine how you and your family will spend your summer:
1. Hang a whiteboard or blackboard in the main home area [kitchen, living room, etc.] and ask everyone to write down their thoughts throughout the season. Delete the ones you have already done to make room.
Sometimes thinking under pressure can make your thoughts blank. Prepare a list when you are ready to start talking, at least to eliminate some pressure. [You can also do this by simply attaching a piece of paper to the refrigerator.]
2. Use the bulletin board [or the front of the refrigerator] to have everyone cut out interesting activities found every week from newspapers, magazines or websites [using your printer].
As with the above exercise, this gives you a range of ideas that can be used throughout the season. In addition, both exercises allow your creativity and positive juices to flow, helping to slow or even reverse negative thinking cycles.
3. Put your brainstorming ideas on a separate folded waste paper. [Or print it out using the original magazine, newspaper or computer.] Take one out of the hat or box every week and do any written processing.
This is especially useful when children are arguing about the idea of the week before or where they want or don't want to go.
4. Choose an idea and sit down and brainstorm how to extend the concept or activity. For example, "Visit U-Pick Farm" can also inspire you to have a picnic in the backyard, local park or family nest, enjoy fresh fruits and vegetables; it may also stimulate cooking competitions between family members, with some members serving as judges. The idea was more advanced and a good introduction in the middle of the summer, when some anxiety and bitterness around the subject had begun to disappear and fun was entering. Remember, brainstorming is about throwing away your head into any thoughts, so there is no wrong answer.
5. Play. Participate in tickling battles, pillow games, games and competitions, board games and imaginary games. Playing or reading a book loudly is another simple way to play and won't cost you a penny.
Playing as an adult may be stupid, especially during periods of financial and emotional crisis, but stimulating your happy center in a healthy way - even if you don't have children - will make a miracle for your emotional health. The better you feel, the better your life will be.
Orignal From: Money talk: How to decide (peace) what to do with your stay
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