Evading attacks on women - Self-defense risk assessment

In distinguishing between infinite possibilities and imminent realities, the following are four points to consider.

If you are Peter Park, will your "spider feeling" be stinging?

You don't need to be bitten by a radioactive spider to recognize this feeling. What is your survival instinct/intuition/fear telling you? Learn about any physical feelings related to warnings. You don't need to be an action adventure superhero to do something.

2. Has anyone violated your boundaries?

Border violations can start small, as a test, seeing that you are denying it, showing discomfort, but saying or doing nothing. In the case of a stranger attack, the test may take only a minute or even a second. In the case of domestic violence, you may be trained to tolerate such an invasion for months or years. Border violations can be visual [gaze or undercover photography] and verbal [insults, incitement, threats], as well as the body.

Most women are beaten by people they know. The perpetrator abused familiarity to exploit suspicion. Many women just assume that because they and their attackers know the common people, they are safe. This is exactly what the attacker wants you to feel, and small test boundary violations will escalate until you can no longer deny that the attack is in progress. The attacker understands that you are not willing to tell you both people. In most cases, this is the end.

3. Is anyone using tricks and manipulation?

Someone is trying to get you to do something, but do you doubt their motivation or agenda? Do they insist that you do this or try to distract you? Do you think they are telling the truth, or are they outspoken? What is the real relationship between you and this person? Given this relationship, is their persuasion appropriate? Is your "spider feeling" stinging?

Has anyone tried to isolate you?

The attacker does not want to be caught. The attacker not only needs a victim of compliance, but also an opportunity. Border violations and tricks work for the former, while isolation works for the latter.

Most people automatically think of physical isolation, but you can also be socially and economically isolated. Social isolation often occurs where you may be in the crowd but you don't know. Or, in abusive relationships, the abuser is so annoying to your family and friends that you lose contact. Financial segregation refers to the abuser's control of the household's money, and you need to leave very little resources.

If you find yourself uncomfortable with the people around you, remember that these four points will keep you away from harm.

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