Recently, I have noticed that "happy" or "happy" is the main topic of many conversations. We seem to live in a world that is overwhelmed by happy information. Pursuing it can literally be a full-time job! As a person who struggles with depression, it makes me wonder if what happens if we are always happy, unfortunately if there is a purpose, if happiness is really the focus.
So what if we are always happy?
Imagine being one of those who are always happy [some people there]. What would it be like? Wake up every day and smile and look forward to what it brings during the day. Sounds great. For a person, I really want to stay and enjoy the happy state of happiness without doing anything else.
When I have no other meaning... I mean this. Life will be good. I will be happy. I may not feel the need to change. Or grow or accept a challenge that may make me feel uncomfortable. So I do the same thing every day. Because we have to face it... If I am satisfied with the way things are, why do I make any changes?
Um... almost sounds boring.
Looking at it this way, I am not sure if we are just for happiness. As a science major, I know that the people we experience are rarely random. Both physically and mentally. It sees the entire range of experiences from happiness to sadness, allowing us to fully express our emotions. Realizing that happiness is one end of the spectrum, and sometimes you can admit grief. Sometimes... maybe even necessary.
What do we get from unhappiness?
For many people, depression is a common complication of ADHD. In fact, nearly 50% of people with ADHD experience feelings of depression, sadness or despair, as well as inattention, inattention, impulsivity and irritability of ADHD. Based on these statistics, it seems that the abnormality is the normal normal mood of ADHD. In fact, I even say the limit, saying that it is an important part.
Because although happiness is not very interesting, its rich ups and downs follow. Various. It will be boring to be happy forever. Boring is the bane of ADHD patients. We avoid being bored at all costs. Perhaps unhappiness gives us a series of experiences that make people feel different. We realize that if we can't be happy at that moment, we may also encounter something interesting and different, trying to find a feeling of happiness.
If we work for them or they are a challenge, we also tend to pay more attention to things. If happiness is easy, will we appreciate it? Unhappiness and dissatisfaction are uncomfortable. Most people don't like discomfort, so we look for ways to change things and make things different. Whether it's our work, our relationships, our environment, the way we treat ourselves, or the way we let others treat us, unhappiness drives us to change, learn and grow.
So although not happy is not ideal, but sometimes it is necessary. Unfortunately, although it is not recommended as a constant emotion, it gives us some impetus when we work hard for happiness. This is an important part of why people are willing to work so hard and take risks to make changes in individuals and the world.
Is happiness even a priority?
Going there, I am not saying that we should pursue or celebrate sorrow, but it may be acceptable to embrace and experience our sorrow, because it is important for living a fulfilling life rather than escaping.
Personally, when I met it, I found it helpful to admit my grief, so I can learn from it and move on. For me, nothing is worse than wearing a "happiness" face.
A few years ago, I read a book recommended by my daughter's English teacher. The reference to this book seems to be summarized:
"So, this is my life. I hope you know that I am happy and sad, and I am still trying to figure out what is going on."
After all, life is full of richness and sorrow. If we want to live a fulfilling and meaningful life, it means accepting all our emotions - good, bad, happy and sad.
Orignal From: Happiness and ADHD
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